Obedient Wives Club to offer sex lessons on how to pleasure husbands
By ISABELLE LAI isabellelai@thestar.com.my
RAWANG: Sex lessons to help wives “serve their husbands better than a first-class
prostitute” will be among the classes provided by the Obedient Wives Club (OWC) to help promote harmonious
marriages and counter
social ills.
Its vice-
president Dr Rohaya Mohamad said it was time sexual prowess took a front seat in marriage, beyond that of the traditional “good mother or good cook” roles.
“A good or religious wife should also be good in bed,” she told reporters after the launch of the club's
Malaysian chapter at a golf club here yesterday.
She said a husband who was kept happy in the bedroom would have no reason to stray, seek out prostitutes or indulge in other social vices.
Making its debut: Fauziah Arifin from the OWC giving a token of appreciation to Positive Image Resources Sdn Bhd executive director Datin Zainah Abdul Ghani at the launch of the club in Rawang yesterday. Looking on are Sakinah Rahmanuddin and Selayang Umno deputy chief Datuk Nasir Ibrahim.
“The family institution is protected and we can curb social ills like prostitution, domestic violence, human trafficking and abandoned babies,” she said, adding that she believed these problems stemmed from unfulfilled sexual needs at home.
Dr Rohaya, who previously served 15 years as a doctor in the Health Ministry, said the club would also offer counselling and lecture sessions for wives, husbands or couples.
She said the Malaysian chapter had around 800 members while its chapter in Jordan had 200, adding that another in Indonesia was set to be launched on June 19 in Jakarta.
Asked whether wives should remain obedient if their husbands still abused or cheated on them despite being “kept happy” in the bedroom, Dr Rohaya said everyone was subject to
God's rule.
“God has His ways and is fair to all. A husband is also subject to God's rule, meaning he can go to hell, too. But a woman must be a good wife to the end,” she said, adding that according to Islam, women should pray, fast during Ramadan, protect their chastity and obey their husbands if they wanted to enter heaven.
Dr Rohaya said the club was undaunted by public criticism, adding that she believed this was a “successful formula” to happy marriages.
OWC and the Polygamy Club were formed by
Global Ikhwan Sdn Bhd, an organisation founded by former members of the banned
Al-Arqam Islamic group.
A mass wedding reception for eight couples was also held during the launch.
The brides were aged 18 to 22 while the grooms were aged 20 to 48. All are OWC members and agreed that disobedient wives were the cause of many social ills.
FB group counters ‘sexist’ wives club
PETALING JAYA:
Facebook users have started a group called “We
Do Not Want Sexist Nonsense From Global Ikhwan Sdn Bhd” after reading about the Obedient Wives Club (OWC) launched by the organisation.
Someone called Matthew Tard Ong wrote that he created the group as he believed both partners played a role in keeping a marriage healthy.
As of 9.30pm yesterday, 133 people had joined the group. The OWC, or
Kelab Taat Suami, was launched yesterday. Its members strived to delight their husbands in almost every way.
OWC vice-
president Dr Rohaya Mohamad said this included keeping husbands sexually satisfied so they would not turn to prostitutes or keep mistresses.
A Muslim husband, who only wanted to be known by his first name Zul, said he did not agree with the message sent out by the club.
“Yes, sex is important, but you can’t say that it will help curb social ills in such a sweeping manner. “There are other factors involved,” said the 36-year-old technician.
He said men tended to stray for psychological reasons that he himself did not fully understand. Men, he said, could cheat on their wives despite having a happy marriage.
Sociologist and social activist Rohanna Ariffin suggested that OWC members read up on statistics by women’s rights groups and the police to find out the factors that caused domestic violence.
“Women shouldn’t be women’s worst enemy. Husbands have to take responsibility for their own behaviour,” said Rohanna who is also a
Parti Rakyat Malaysia central committee member.
She stressed that it was wrong for women to take all the blame for men’s weaknesses.
However, Selayang Umno deputy chief
Datuk Nasir Ibrahim said the club was extraordinary and unique.
He said Selayang Umno fully supported the club as most problems had their roots at home.
“There may be negative voices decrying this as male chauvinism but I don’t see it that way. If the family institution is strong with good marital relations, it can help counter social ills,” he said at the launch of the club yesterday.
‘Wives can curb social ills like prostitution by being obedient and alluring’
By ISABELLE LAI
PETALING JAYA: Wives who “obey, serve and entertain” their husbands can help reduce social ills such as prostitution and
domestic abuse, according to members of The Obedient Wives Club.
The Club, to be launched Saturday by
Global Ikhwan Sdn Bhd, aims to teach wives how to keep their husbands happy and contented.
Global Ikhwan, an organisation founded by former members of the banned Al-Arqam Islamic group, also launched the Ikhwan Polygamy Club two years ago.
Global Ikhwan spokesperson Siti Maznah Mohd Taufik said that many social ills were caused by disobedient wives who failed to bring joy to their husbands.
“Domestic abuse happens because wives don't obey their husband's orders. A man must be responsible for his wife's wellbeing but she must listen to her husband,” said Siti Maznah in an interview on Friday.
When asked whether it was the wife's fault for being abused, she said: “Yes, most probably because she didn't listen to her husband.”
Siti Maznah, 48, also stressed that husbands would not stray and turn to prostitutes if wives supplied them with a satisfying sex life.
She said women had the duty of making themselves attractive and dressing up beautifully at home.
“Wives should welcome them with sexy clothes and alluring smiles when in the privacy of their homes,” she said, adding that she herself did the same as everyone in the club practised what they preached.
Siti Maznah, a second wife and mother to five children, said she treated her husband's first wife like her elder sister.
“Altogether, we have 16 children in our household. My husband is a happy man, you can see it from his actions,” she said.
According to her, the Ikhwan Polygamy Club now has over 1,000 members comprising both husbands and wives. The average number of children per polygamous household ranges from four to 26.
Siti Maznah admitted that husbands were not perfect and it was natural for disagreements to occur, sometimes.
“We can have discussions and disagreements. We don't just keep quiet when we don't agree with our husbands,” she said.
However, as long as husbands did not go against Islamic law, their final word was law, she said.
Perak mufti supports Obedient Wives Club
By SYLVIA LOOI and FARIK ZOLKEPLI newsdesk@thestar.com.my
IPOH: Perak mufti
Tan Sri Harussani Zakariahas given his backing to the Obedient Wives Club, which offers “sex lessons” to help women keep their husbands.
Harussani, who recently banned the poco poco dance in Perak, said women needed to be reminded of their roles and responsibilities to their husbands.
The younger generation is too absorbed in cultures that are not their own. Wives must be very obedient to their husbands. - Tan Sri Harussani Zakaria “The younger generation is too absorbed in cultures that are not their own. Wives must be very obedient to their husbands.
“However, in Islam, the wife can go against her husband if what he does is not according to the religion,” he said, calling for more such clubs to be set up throughout the country as a way to counter social ills.
He was responding to a statement by club vice-
president Dr Rohaya Mohamad that a husband who was kept happy in the bedroom would have no reason to stray, seek out prostitutes or indulge in other social vices.
The club had also offered sex lessons to help wives “serve their husbands better than a first-class prostitute”.
However, Johor Islamic Council advisor
Datuk Nooh Gadut said the use of the term “first-class prostitute” was extreme, adding that marriages in Islam should not be just for sex but for, among others, love.
The Joint Action Group for Gender Equality (JAG), which includes the Women's Aid Organisation, Sisters in Islam and Women's Centre for Change, said the club's principles were narrow-minded, degrading, and an insult to women around the world.
JAG spokesman Maria Chin Abdullah said Malaysian women had contributed enormously to society and that the latest development was a setback in progress.
“It is degrading to ask another individual in this case, a woman to wait on another person hand and foot. Our group is fighting for gender equality but the club is looking to degrade women even more.
“To objectify women as mere sex objects to satisfy their husbands' lust is simply unacceptable. “I hope more men can speak out against the club's outrageous stand,” she told The Star yesterday.
Social activist Pang Khee Teik said women should realise that they were not only “doing it” for their husbands but for themselves as well.
“We must remember there are people with little or no sex drive. Any campaign by the club must not pressure women into feeling guilty about it,” said Pang, who is also the co-founder of annual sexuality rights festival that advocates equal sexual rights for all.